Wednesday, April 26, 2006


I don't often throw wobblies on here, but there are too many damn people at work I can't say this to, so I'm saying it here.

There are now five women at work who are pregnant. I found out about two of them yesterday, and another one today. This is from a staff of 31. Removing the male staff from the equation (we're innovative, but not that innovative) that means 20% of our female staff are currently expecting.

One of those is a close colleague who was expecting her first child when she started working with us. She's now expecting her third child. Come July, during the time Husband and I have been trying for a baby, she will have had three children.

I'm thinking either God is going for a really twisted sense of humour these days, or somehow I've stored up really, really bad karma.

Just so we're clear, I don't resent their luck, they have my honest congratulations and my sincere good wishes.

I just want what they have, too.

Years ago, it didn't really feel like too much to ask.


At 3:31 pm, Anonymous Sue Child said...

Oh, Anna!!! Huge hugs, sweetie.

At 4:01 pm, Anonymous Julie Cohen said...

It is okay to be stroppy about it. The lottery about who finds it easy to conceive and have children and who doesn't isn't fair or logical. It just is. It's not luck or karma or God's joke or anything. It just is.

I hope this means they'll get maternity cover in and the PTB won't expect the other 80% of staff to do 100% of the work.

(((hugs))) for you. It will be your turn one day. And it's not too much to ask.

At 4:07 pm, Blogger Michelle Styles said...

Massive hugs.
It is okay to be fed up/annoyed and just plain peeved.

Your turn will come.

At 5:52 pm, Blogger Sela Carsen said...


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At 6:38 pm, Anonymous Kate Hardy said...

Hugs, Anna. I can remember when we started trying for a baby, and everyone else who tried fell the first month of trying... and there we were, the best part of a year later. Hang on in there, and be kind to yourself. It will happen.

At 8:10 pm, Anonymous Anna Adams said...

I just feel for you. Hope it happens soon.

Anna A.

At 12:15 am, Anonymous Anonymous said...


Huge, Huge, Huge Hug.

I also do not understand why good people don't get preggers when they want to (not saying that your co-workers aren't on the good people side of the world - but you know what I mean).


At 2:49 am, Blogger Susan Abraham said...

Hi Anna, I knew someone once like you who shared the same sentiments. Then when she least expected it sometime later, she found herself suddenly pregnant.
Not to worry. Enjoy your personal space & freedom while you still can.
best wishes

At 6:41 am, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks, guys. It's nice to whine in sympathetic company.


At 7:13 am, Blogger Nell Dixon said...

Hugs, I've been in the same position and it hurts. My husband said our friends kids would be old enough to be babysitters by the time we had our kids - he was almost right. Your day will come and hopefully soon, sweetie. xxx

At 9:10 am, Anonymous Jude/Jess Denny said...

Anna Lucia - you don't know me but I sometimes read your blog from Julie Cohen's link and had to reply.
As someone who has tried unsuccessfully to have a baby for six years and spent three years adopting (via a contested yukky legal battle that still isn't over) I know exactly how you feel. It sucks hard and it is unfair and you're stroppy feelings are ultra valid. Been there...screamed at the bedroom wall etc. It also feels like the whole world can get pregnant like a rash. But hang in there it only takes one successful time to make a baby. Sadly some of us have to wait longer than others, but the end result is so much sweeter - and I'm so much happier to have my wee girlie than I ever thought I could have been at one time. She's made it all come right for us in the end.
You will have your baby - trust in it! And it's okay to strop along the way; anyone going through this is entitled!
Jude D(from the eharl boards and RNA)

At 10:43 am, Blogger MaryF said...


I do know the feeling - my best friend just found out she's 7 weeks pregnant with her third child. She'll be 42 when this baby is born. She was 36 when she had her first. I have one son, but haven't been able to get pregnant again for 15 years.


At 10:59 am, Blogger Anna Lucia said...

Thanks everyone. :-) I know I'm not alone. Part of me is stunned that so many people are affected by trouble conceiving... and yet I've been told that at any one time, a fifth of the female population at child bearing age is likely to be pregnant. Which means our work statistics are pretty normal! :-D

I'm just getting round to the idea that I'm entitled to strop. I spent a good long time saying it was okay when it wasn't, and I'm learning to acknowledge that it makes me feel sad, dammit!

It's lovely to see so many lurkers, too. Thanks for visiting, and sharing your stories/advice/hugs.

I really appreciate it.


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